“Each individual is master of his or her destiny: it is up to each person to create the causes of happiness.” The 14th Dalai Lama
I feel so lucky! Just before I left on a nine-day trip, The woman who started doing some work for me (and who I was really depending on to enter lots of new folks into my mailing list the day before I first posted this in 2015) just quit without notice.
What LUCK! (And I don’t mean that sarcastically.) And then, my colleague, Susan Peirce Thompson, Ph.D. (international expert on the brain science that supports weight loss, who hosted me doing a 5-part course for her tribe) wrote a blog about LUCK the next day! It made me realize that the practices I teach have made the feeling of being lucky a dependable occurrence every day.
In the past, I would have felt like such a victim of her quitting without notice and cited something I did as her reason. Before, this occurrence would have blown my whole day out of the water. I would have gotten a fearful kick in the stomach when I read her text, then vacillated between blaming myself and blaming her. I would have felt clueless about what to do, but felt a strong need to “Do something!”(usually trying to win the person back without knowing if I even wanted them). I would have spent time composing emails to her and her supervisor, then regretting whatever I sent. I would have obsessed about how the data would get entered. I would have called a couple of people and talked to everyone I met about it.
So how is it that a former fear-driven, overreacting, adrenaline junkie can rely on whatever “goes wrong” in relationships and life as my own personal luck?
Happy Symmetry = No “BAD” Luck. Over time and a lot of inner work, things like this became “less bad.” I had evolved to the point where I would not stay in the victim place indefinitely; within a reasonable amount of time I would start to look for proof that this “bad” thing turned out to be a “good” thing after all. But now, with so much real practice living from this new paradigm “The Reliable Symmetry of Happiness” (based on the natural law I have dubbed “The Symmetry Principle”), I don’t need to find that proof to be OK with what happens. The “even-better!” outcome often does come. (I inquired around and found the perfect data entry person for half the price and no drama.) But even when there is no proof of something better, I tend to rest easy nowadays in the “happy symmetry” held in this and in every event.
It is the ultimate free-fall into faith, not born of mind-made dogma about destiny or a plan, but born of seeing through the thinking that would tell me “something bad is happening.” Today, the tiniest flutter of a memory of that old “kicked in the stomach” feeling was immediately replaced by a deep kind of knowing that this is the absolute best thing—the only thing–that could have happened for this moment, whether my sharp, but still very limited, intellect can find proof or not.
Because I didn’t need to find evidence that this will ultimately be a good thing, my day hardly skipped a beat. I was able to check in with myself about any hidden motives in my not returning my new assistant’s call after my phone died. Then I quickly wrote and sent an email to the employee—that felt both loving and honest without so much as a hint of my old second-guessing. At no point was there a “fight or flight” adrenaline rush that would have cut me off at the knees in the old days (and I mean that literally, since my main chronic condition was severe adrenal fatigue from all the intense reactions I was having to people and “problems”).
Unhook the Adrenaline. It seems we had not really accounted for how much our emotions are related to what we are believing, and how much they cumulatively lessen once we know how to dissolve the “hook” to intense reactions by questioning the thoughts driving the bus. It’s ‘”the missing PEACE” we were never taught. Once we know that, each old trigger and “unlucky” happening simply appears as an adventure; holding big gifts of awakening and re-connection.
I really cannot describe how different my response to this employee and to this situation was today than it would have been in “the old days,” before I got hold of this “happy symmetry.” Without affirming over my fears or simply replacing one belief with another, I have come to find for myself how all things—especially the “bad” things that happen in my relationship to the people and situations that arise in my life–are, without exception, “happening FOR me, not TO me,” as Byron Katie often says (someone who also found out for herself).
School of Luck
So how is it that we can SO COMPLETELY rely on what goes “wrong” in our relationships and life to become our luckiest moments? The fact is we really can feel blessed No Matter What—to a far greater level than we have been feeling. That’s what I want to show you. I have found how easily we can create a lot less fear and pain in your relationship to yourselves, others, and life itself. “LUCK SCHOOL” on steroids.
I feel lucky to know that this simple process works, I am lucky to have witnessed hundreds of women put this into practice with inspiring success, and I feel even more lucky to share it with you!
As a place to start in learning this simple, realiable, LUCKy way of life, check out our 14-day, digital course, where I not only teach you the ONE THOUGHT that is getting in the way of everything feeling lucky, but walk you through that process related to any situation or relationship where you are feeling you NEED something different to happen than what is happening. It is a total game-changer that starts you living in Symmetry with self, others, and life–exactly as they come to you. Click here to learn more or enroll: THE STRESSFUL RELATIONSHIP SOLUTION
…and look out for part 2 of this blog where I share how living from this Symmetry Principle radically supports and truly enhances what my friend, Dr. Susan Peirce Thompson wrote about—a study around four attributes that relate to a perception of being lucky.