Updated 2/14/25

This Valentine’s Day I celebrate–via this note from a client–the phenomenal love, trust, and gratitude that “go around and come around” between the ME that’s reflected in each of YOU and the YOU that’s reflected in ME. Thank you to each heart that has filled mine to the brim this past year, somehow creating even more room! What transpires between us is beyond my wildest dreams, and I love that you let me know it’s beyond yours too!. xoxo

Here is her note to me:

“Yes, yes, YES!!! I love our sessions, and I LOVE the group, and  I love letting you act as a kind of surrogate self-love mom to model for me and hold me in unconditional love while I’m learning to hold myself. 

That’s so EXACTLY what I need. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately because I have an old coach contacting me and wanting me to come back to her group, and I absolutely cannot see myself doing that now that I’ve had a taste of you. Shawn, you have such a different vibe about you, and are so kind and gentle and so loving. It’s just what I have needed in order to heal. 

I love how you’re such a wonderful role model, too, since you LIVE what you’re teaching. It’s not as if you’re perfect and way above everyone else, but you show that it is possible to awaken so much more as you find your peaceful way through this life. Even though your life is hardly free of challenges, you show us that it can be done and the very practical HOW to do it.

What I also love about our time together is that you are unconditionally loving and accepting — you know me better than just about anybody else on this earth, and yet you’ve never once been judgmental or condemning (or shocked or horrified). 

Any rejection would have shut me right down and built my walls up even higher, so I thank you very much that you’ve given me the gift of acceptance and of hope. I’ve never, ever, felt such sincere love (and I know “unconditional” sounds cliché, but that’s exactly what it is — completely free of judgments and “should’s”). I feel that I can trust you, and I’ve never really felt 100% that way about anyone before.”

The experience of love that characterizes these fun, close, honest, searching, productive relationships that take place in our groups and retreats and private sessions seem, in many ways, as much responsible for the shifts people are experiencing as the work we do.

Thank you for the commitment to receive… even in just the reading of these posts. YOU taking that stand for yourself creates the best I have to give.

What a privilege. Love you to the moon and back!

xoxo Shawn

PS…. Since we are JUST on the heels of our new 3-Day Thought Detox: A Relationship Reboot, I wanted to follow up with a really important free gift that will catapult your self-love efforts forward:

My Gift to YOU

If you want to stop being hard on yourself, turn your inner critic into the champion of your happiness, and get unlimited ZERO-CALORIE sweets by being your OWN Valentine this year, my GIFT to you is to watch the replay of someone working with me through The WHEEL OF SELF-FORGIVENESS on an issues where she wished she had stood up to bullying by her boss (and in parallel we are touching on the issues of someone who was beating herself up for not standing up to an abusive husband in their marriage or even in asking for what would have been fair to her and her kids in the divorce).

In the video, we go through this simple tool that not only changed my life but has moved thousands of people around the world into unshakable inner safety and self-forgiveness. It’s a really unique and special video that I hope you’ll just kick back and enjoy as a self-love gift tonight or this weekend! In it, we:

1. Work LIVE through the Wheel of Self-Forigiveness with someone, but also
2. Recap what we’ve covered in the challenge and what it means to you
3. Share the 9 Failed Promises and Spritual Misconceptions & how to “Get YOU Back,”
4. Work LIVE through the Judge-Your-Neighbor worksheet with particpants.
5. Work LIVE through the 4 Questions and Turnarounds of The Work of Byron Katie with someone whose son may be squandering his tuition or even dropping out of college.

YES–I said FREE My gift to you! Lovingly gifting you the replay (which you can watch till Monday 11:59 PM ET). Plus, The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness CHEAT SHEET (on your dashboard once you sign up–and be sure to check spam and promotions if you don’t see a YOU’RE IN email) so you’ll always have these 3 simple steps to bring regret & self-criticism down to ZERO!!! All you need to do it sign on FREE for the Detox (even though it’s over… but everything will be right there in your dashboard, all the worksheets, tools, and even a couple Happiness Hacks for you to keep)!

The final part of the gift is the chance to come in and talk with me, since all our readers are my Valentines! Click the link in blue or the button on that dashboard (which you’ll get as soon as you sign on… Be sure to check SPAM and PROMOTIONS since some Thought Detoxers missed the whole event due to not finding our emails… I want you to get this!)

Get it here (Plus LOTS more!) by signing on FREE for the Detox Challenge we just finished!

If you are struggling in marriage, the workplace, or any high-stakes relationship (including grown children and aging parents), and want to learn the HOW of getting your needs met in a compassionate, efficient way that changes patterns for good, this is for you. XOXO