Stop Turning on Yourself. Start Coming Home to
Self-Solidarity.

Speaker, author, and creator of
The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness,™
a 3-Step framework that transforms regret,
self-criticism, and self-abandonment into unconditional
self-love, calm confidence, and decisive action.

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Trusted by high-achieving women, retreat communities, leadership groups,

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Why Does Shawn's Practical Message Resonate so Deeply?

Because there is an epidemic of self-criticism, with so many thoughtful, high-potential women sabotaging their best gifts— quietly exhausted from turning against themselves and putting their needs last.

HEAL GUILT, REGRET,
& SELF-ABANDONMENT

Create unshakable inner safety, stand with, by, and for yourself, no matter what. Stop weaponizing hindsight against yourself.

STOP OVERTHINKING
& INDECISION

Move from mental replay, self-doubt, and second-guessing into clarity, self-trust, and grounded decision-making.

TRANSFORM BURNOUT
& PERFECTIONISM

Stop draining yourself through self-pressure, internal criticism, and hyper-responsibility. Turn self-sabotage into Self-Solidarity.

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Talks that Help People Come Home to Themselves

Short clips and transformational moments from Shawn’s podcast interviews, talks, and conversations on self-abandonment, regret, emotional healing, and Self-Solidarity™. Through emotionally honest storytelling and practical insight, Shawn helps audiences reconnect with themselves in real time—transforming self-criticism, overthinking, and burnout into clarity, peace, and empowered action.

“He's not the hero I've been waiting for.”

The Ripple Effect Podcast with Steve Harper

“Nobody gets to go beat themselves up.”

The Trauma Therapist Podcast with Guy MacPherson

“You always find the spark of self-love.”

Curveball with Heather Campbell

“I found what all that healing work had missed.”

The Ripple Effect Podcast with Steve Harper

“I called it Regret Hell.”

The Trauma Therapist Podcast with Guy MacPherson

“Self-Solidarity means standing with yourself, no matter what.”

The Trauma Therapist Podcast with Guy MacPherson

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The Missing PEACE We Were Never Taught

Practical, emotionally transformative conversations that audiences immediately connect with, since they answer some critical questions and give tools for real change at home, work, and on this planet.

The Hidden Reasons Why Personal Growth and Inner Work Don’t Stop Self-Criticism

Why affirmations, insight, and self-awareness often fail to dissolve regret and self-blame.

Why High-Achieving Women Secretly Abandon Themselves & HOW to Move into Self-Advocacy

The hidden survival patterns beneath burnout, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustion.

The Inner Critic Isn’t the Enemy—It’s the Invitation

A radically different approach to healing shame, regret, and self-judgment.

The Symmetry Principle™

How emotional triggers can become direct pathways to clarity, freedom, and peace.

The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness™

3 practical steps to stop harsh self-criticism and rebuild inner safety.

The Self-Solidarity Solution™

Ending the epidemic of self-abandonment through practical self-love and compassionate self-advocacy.

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Some Podcasts & Interviews

Dive deeper into full-length conversations exploring self-forgiveness, emotional resilience, burnout, people-pleasing, relationships, survival-driven thinking, and the path back to inner peace.

Blending practical tools, vulnerable storytelling, and transformational insight, Shawn’s interviews help listeners understand why they turn against themselves—and how to build the kind of inner safety and Self-Solidarity™ that changes every area of life.

Nobody Gets to Beat Themselves Up

The Trauma Therapist Podcast with Guy Macpherson

How to Forgive Yourself & Break the Cycle of Regret

The Ripple Effect Podcast with Steve Harper

From Breakdown to Breakthrough: The Radical Power of Self-Solidarity

Curveball: A Podcast About Possibility with Heather Campbell

The Ultimate Guide to Self-Confidence and Inner Peace: Wheel of Self-Forgiveness

World Love Week with Kem Krell

Meet Shawn Mahshie

Creator & aUTHOR of The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness™ and pioneer in the field of Self-Solidarity™.

After years of achievement mixed with chronic self-criticism and self-abandonment, Shawn’s health, marriage, and career collapsed almost simultaneously—forcing her to completely rethink the way we approach regret, shame, and emotional healing.
What emerged from that “whole life crash” became The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness™, a practical, emotionally transformative framework that helps people stop turning against themselves and finally come home to Self-Solidarity™.
Today, Shawn teaches this work through retreats, speaking, coaching, digital programs, and transformational conversations that help audiences move from survival-driven thinking into clarity, confidence, connection, and win-win solutions.

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UNITED NATIONS Global Happiness Conference Speaker

Author & Retreat Leader,
CEO of Thrive This Time LLC

Hear Shawn Explain the Work in 6 Minutes

In this brief NY Executive Podcast interview, Shawn shares the heart of The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness™ with warmth and clarity, offering podcast hosts, summit producers, and event organizers a quick feel for how she helps audiences stop beating themselves up, interrupt regret hell, and come home to Self-Solidarity.

Conversations That Create Real Shifts:

KAELY R.

wEB Designer/eNTREPRENEUR

“For the first time in my life, I stopped treating myself like the enemy.”

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Carly K.

Strategic operations integrator

"I see my life shifting before my own eyes."

Merry O.

REALTOR/DIGITAL MARKETER

"The relationship I have with myself has been the biggest thing that has changed."

Alison

HERBALIST/EDUCATOR

"Now I can stop and say, 'Why is this triggering me so much?'"

Sample Podcast Questions

Conversations that are emotionally honest, practical, and deeply engaging.

What is Self-Solidarity™, and why is it different from traditional self-care?

Self-Solidarity™ is the ability to stand with, by, and for yourself—especially when life gets difficult. While self-care often focuses on what we do for ourselves, Self-Solidarity focuses on how we relate to ourselves. It is the shift from self-abandonment and self-criticism to becoming a reliable source of support, compassion, and self-advocacy from within.

Why do so many successful people still struggle with harsh self-criticism?

Because achievement doesn't automatically heal the survival patterns that taught us to judge, pressure, or abandon ourselves. Many high-achievers learned early that self-criticism was necessary for success, safety, or belonging. What helped them survive often becomes the very thing that prevents them from experiencing peace.

What is The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness™, and how does it work?

The Wheel of Self-Forgiveness™ is a simple three-step process that helps people stop attacking themselves and reconnect with their own innocence, wisdom, and inner support. By understanding the thinking behind a regret, releasing fear-based stories about the future, and learning to become their own source of support, people move from self-blame into Self-Solidarity™.

Why does personal growth often fail to end regret and shame?

Many personal growth approaches help people feel better temporarily, but they don't always address the moment we turn against ourselves. Regret and shame are often fueled by hindsight, fear, and self-abandonment. Until we learn how to stand with ourselves in those moments—rather than judge or punish ourselves—we may continue repeating the same emotional patterns despite years of growth work.

What does it actually mean to “stop abandoning yourself?”

Stopping self-abandonment means no longer withdrawing your love, support, compassion, or advocacy from yourself when things get difficult. It means learning to stay connected to yourself through mistakes, uncertainty, conflict, disappointment, and fear. Instead of turning against yourself, you become the person who stands with, by, and for yourself—no matter what.

How can emotional triggers become pathways to healing and clarity?

Most people see triggers as problems to eliminate. I see them as invitations. Every trigger points to a belief, fear, or survival pattern asking to be understood. When we learn how to work with our reactions instead of fighting them, our greatest frustrations often become direct pathways to insight, freedom, self-trust, and lasting peace.

Why does self-compassion feel unsafe for so many high-achievers?

Many high-achievers unconsciously believe self-criticism is what keeps them motivated, responsible, or successful. Somewhere along the way, they learned that being hard on themselves was necessary to avoid failure, rejection, or disappointment. As a result, self-compassion can feel risky—even irresponsible. The good news is that true self-compassion doesn't lower our standards; it creates the inner safety needed to grow, lead, and thrive without constantly turning against ourselves.