“From now on our troubles will be miles away…” Pain can shift instantly….[Even with Old Patterns Out in the Hall Doing Push-UPs]

During my graduate study in linguistics, there was a term ‘cognitive flexibility,’ which I consider to be what we are creating by systematically coming to UN-BELIEVE the pain-inducing programming that keeps us in the same reactionary ruts: Anxiety, Anger and Alienation. This NEW YEAR’S LOVE letter (which you can also read on my BLOG page, if you … Read more

Using Your Descent into Defensiveness as Your Path to Peace

What happy changes happen–in your body and in your understanding of the real source of your pain–when you realize for yourself that the separation, hopelessness, and striving in defensiveness are created the MOMENT you believe your self-worthiness lies in what another is believing about you, and the moment you came to believe that it was your responsibility to change the way they see you. Where have you done to yourself exactly what you thought was being done to you? It’s amazing to know how to use defensiveness as the guide back to the intensity that got in started in childhood, and back to unshakeable peace.