Shawn Mahshie Client: I can’t deal with my husband. He has no compassion at all. He even admitted it. Anytime I try to talk to him about my issues he just gets impatient with me and talks down to me. I can’t believe I married someone so cold and unfeeling and I’m also allowing it to make … Read more
Here’s a text bite from my coaching to a divorced client in a new relationship who had lost herself in many ways in her marriage. It meant a lot to some folks who read it on FB, so I’m reposting it here tonight… plus the epilogue…. the new relationship “blessing” that took place next! “Awww, … Read more
I almost never make my bed. But, as in this illuminating Navy Seal video, this morning I accomplished more before 6 a.m. than I used to in an entire day. Up since 3:40 a.m., first answering a client in crisis, then fully engaged in whatever calls me. I’m still going strong at 9 p.m. and … Read more
“Enslave the liberties of but one human being and the liberties of the world are put in peril.” ~~William Lloyd Garrison What does freedom look like? It looks like me in a tiny, triangular park on this very very hot day in Boston. I was so engrossed in my writing that I was almost oblivious … Read more
20 years ago, I lost an important friend. I remember that day so clearly. She came to the door unannounced and let me know that she could no longer watch me be so fearful or so dependent on others’ opinions. She explained that she didn’t want to be part of me blaming my husband or my … Read more
Client: Good morning, Sweetie! Got a problem here. Your all-day event is going to be problematic for me. My son is going away and I have his kids for a week. Shawn: Thanks for letting me know. And… let’s expore this a moment. It is exactly the kind of thing you cited as the reason … Read more
This post was originally published on 5/10/20 and was updated on 5/9/21. “It wasn’t that long ago that my mom just drove me CRAZY! I couldn’t even talk to her without getting annoyed or impatient, and mostly tried to avoid conversations altogether, since I didn’t like treating her that way. Ever since the work I did … Read more
So how is it possible for four simple questions to turn around a life; to bring someone like me who was suffering a great deal on all kinds of levels to a place I call unconditional prosperity? What do I mean when I say that? For me it’s the sense that: There is enough, there … Read more
HOW TO END “CHRONIC-NESS”—the string of chronic health or mental health conditions that grows out the fear-driven belief that we need to meet others’ need first or agree to things we don’t want in order to get our own needs met.
I’m running across so many videos out there these days about how to stand up to narcissists, or how to see manipulation when it’s happening, and how to stick up for yourself, and what to do to keep those “toxic people” out of your life, or at least your decisions. It all sounds so good; … Read more